Someone please translate this, how do I respond, I don’t understand

1. Believe her when she says she will hurt you. She is telling you she’s not in a place where she should be dating atm. Don’t pursue any further

2. It’s not going to work out. She’s not ready for a relationship, and you should pursue someone else who thinks positively.

3. She’s either in a bad place, or she’s trying to let you down gently that she isn’t interested in an extended version of it’s not you, it’s me.

   Either scenario is the same outcome…it’s not gunna happen.

4. hmm maybe she is not emotionally stable and is going through some bad times.

   it seems she likes you, but as she said maybe its not the right time for that. because of some problems she got, she is scared to hurt you. and she does not want to hurt you

   I think you can only accept that and move on

   maybe she might be able to open up and explain why she thinks that way or what is maybe bothering her

5. To me, it sounds like she has deep psychological or emotional issues that will require years of therapy before she could contemplate being an equal in a relationship. She is well aware of these and so although she likes you, she wants you to know she’s is nowhere near being a functional adult and an equal partner for a healthy relationship.

   Appreciate her honesty, move on. She is right. Any connection with her may tiring at best, toxic at worst.

6. She has something going on in her life and doesn’t want to bring you down.

7. Honestly, I would say she was not in the place for a relationship, but she sounds like she needs a really good friend.

8. She likes you and wants you but dislikes herself. She is worried that she may end up hurting you emotionally.

9. She’s telling you who she is. Hurt people hurt people. She’s going to play this withdrawing Go Away A Little Closer game forever. She’s not in a place to show up for the relationship.

10. “Im bad at showing emotions and so cold and I will hurt you”, that sentence alone says she’s going to hurt you as she stated (whether it’s intentionally or not).

11. This was me in my deepest depression. She wants to be with you but the fear of hurting you and in turn hurting herself with the guilt of hurting you is tearing her up inside. She CANNOT have a successful relationship like this. She needs to get help. Women like this become quickly dependant on their significant other for every inch of their happiness, they won’t blame you if they don’t feel happy though, they will blame themselves saying they aren’t doing a good enough job and then obsess over being perfect for you all the while convincing themselves they are not and will not ever be good enough.

12. Walk away. She’s warning you. Believe her.

13. Based on your other comments I’d have to say it seems she wants you in her life but not like that. I think she thinks you’re nice and feels bad that she doesn’t feel the same way and in turn she thinks this makes her a bad person. You can choose to stay her friend if you want to but don’t become her friend in hope of something more bc that barely ever happens, there are exceptions but most time we aren’t the exception we are the rule.

    Based on her text it sounds like y’all are in highschool or at least early adult and if not don’t try to date someone who sound like a young adult at a not young adult type age. If you are young my advice is I wouldn’t stress too much over this one girl and if this seems like a situation where y’all could be friends without trying to be more than I’d take it bc at least you got a friend out of the experience.

14. Whoa, I didn’t get what any of the other commenters got out of that. Good thing I’m married, looks like I’d be shitty at being single

15. She has an avoidant attachment style

16. As someone who just left an avoidant – she means this. If she just wanted to ghost, she would. If she just wanted to try, she would. She recognises her own limitations and if you persuade her to give it a go, she’ll sabotage it because she just isn’t ready for this emotionally.

    Save yourself the hurt, thank her for her honesty and decide if you can just be friends or if you need some space.

17. She’s not that into you.

18. You got it correct, thou whenever someone says right person wrong time its usually the other way around – wrong person, right time 😉

    There are endless possibilities as to why she wrote it, lets not get too technical. The girl pretty much told you its not going to work. You can either accept it or ask her why and then accept, but you might get a little more hurt by the answer.

    I’ve had a similar situation in one of my first heartbreaks of sort. She told me i’m a great guy very kind very sweet but she just didn’t feel the magic. Turned out while i was bad at dating (still am in ways), other guy snooped in and won her heart. Since i’m not a generally aggressive or unforgiving person we kept very minimal touch like happy birthdays and such. I know she is now marrying that other guy.

    She just doesn’t like you, harsh truth. Is it another man is it some of your qualities, it really doesn’t matter. If she cared enough she would have told you the truth.

19. It means she isn’t into you. Move on and find someone else she is playing games on top of it. Not worth any more of your time.

20. She sounds like she needs a therapist. What is she doing to help herself ?

21. She likes you and really wants to be with you but she knows she’ll hurt you, because she knows she isn’t in the right mindset to date atm and will hurt you. Even if you think you can handle it, you won’t be able to.

22. Sounds like she believes the grass is greener and doesn’t have the courage to tell you the truth

    Move on my dude

    Nothing good will come from pursuing this any further

23. She’s not stable and she realizes that. Listen to her.

24. Just give her space. She doesn’t seem ready for a situationship.

25. It means she’s insecure and thinks you’re too good for her

26. It ain’t gonna happen, bro. She let you down easy.

27. She’s a toxic serial abuser probably. Avoid like the plague, this girl is pure drama.

28. Ugh, this reeks of a manipulative mind playing hard-to-get. Reply with “OK” and ghost. Then see how long it takes for her to start chasing you. If she doesn’t then bullet dodged.

29. When someone says they will hurt you believe them. Trust me. Do not pursue this

30. http://www.thehotline.org and http://www.211.org are resources to have for just in case scenarios in the USA.

31. Depression

32. Head for the hills, in your heart you want her but you have to think with your head. Progressing this relationship will only ultimately hurt you. Run

33. Back away, it’s not you, it’s her.

34. She’s not the one for you

35. It means that she is full of drama and baggage which may be of her own doing or due to circumstances outside her control but will nonetheless suck you in and fuck you up. Pass on this one, OP.

    There are a million girls as her with the added bonus that they will not drag you down into drama.

36. If I’ve learned one thing while dating, it’s to believe women when they tell you something about themselves.

    I’d move on.

37. “You’re too nice and I’m looking for a bad boy to use and abuse me.”

38. She is not physically attracted to you, but doesn’t want to be a bad person or have you get angry at her for rejecting you.

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